Depth Decision-Making

Depth Decision-Making

One of the hardest parts of decision-making for gifted adults isn’t lack of options — it’s too many.

We see possibilities. We see pitfalls. We see all the paths — and all the problems on those paths. Our minds race ahead to solve every obstacle before we’ve even chosen a direction.

And in that flood of problem-solving, something dangerous happens:

We stay busy working through low-level details — which keeps us from fully committing to the bigger decision that actually matters.

Should I move across the country?
→ What would the schools be like?
→ What would I do if the market shifts?
→ How would I get my dog there?

All valid questions.
But notice: you haven’t actually decided if moving across the country is the right move for your life. You’re solving logistics before choosing a direction.

This is where Depth Decision-Making comes in.

When we sort decisions into levels, we can see more clearly where we actually are:

High-Level: Strategic Direction
Is this aligned with who I want to become? What kind of life am I building?

  • Should I start my own business?
  • Do I want to pursue this relationship?
  • Is this career path aligned with my values?

 

Mid-Level: Alignment & Criteria
What conditions would make this work? What matters most?

  • Does this role allow for creative expression?
  • Will this decision support my long-term financial security?
  • Are my core needs (purpose, belonging, autonomy) being met?

 

Low-Level: Logistics & Execution
How would I do this? What are the practical details?

  • How would I fund the move?
  • Which CRM would I use for the business?
  • What’s my daily schedule going to look like?

 

The trap?
Gifted adults often have the capacity to instantly see 17 low-level problems with every high-level idea. And because problem-solving feels productive, we start fixing details before deciding the bigger question.

Here’s your gentle reminder:

👉 High-level clarity must come first.

You’re allowed to not know how everything will work. You only need to know:
Is this the direction I want to head?

When you practice Depth Decision-Making, you slow your mind’s instinct to over-engineer and give yourself permission to make meaningful decisions with intentionality.

The rest — you’ll figure out.

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